AS anyone who has ever been a bridesmaid will already know, the cost of being in your pal’s wedding party can quickly rack up.
After splashing out on a lavish hen do, you’re also expected to shower the happy couple with gifts on their big day – and that’s before you’ve even taken into account the cost of the actual bridesmaid dress.
It’s for this exact reason that two bridesmaids are trying to put an end to the madness by refusing to fork out £215 for an outfit they’ll only ever wear once.
Sharing the dilemma on online forum WeddingBee, the Australian bride-to-be raged: “My bridesmaids have made a big deal about how much everything is costing for my wedding.”
Explaining how her sister and best friend “both have full time jobs and no kids” to pay for, the Bridezilla says they are all too happy to spend their money on “new dresses for different events” but “are making a big deal” about her September wedding.
Baffled by her bridesmaids’ reluctance to pay a small fortune for her big day, the bride added: “All they have to pay for are their shoes and dresses which total $380 [£215].”
As the bridesmaids were planning on paying for the bride’s bachelorette party themselves, they’ve had to put their foot down when it comes to their dresses.
Determined to still have her way, the bride said she would contribute £50 towards her bridesmaids’ dresses “which they were both happy with”.
However, the bride claims “things have changed and now I am paying for myself for the bachelorette as well as being expected to put up to [£50] each.”
She added: “The only reason I was putting money towards their dresses was because I wasn’t paying anything for the bachelorette.
“They both don’t seem to get that I am up for a lot paying for the rest of the wedding, and while that is nothing to do with them, I think they are being a little selfish in expecting me to pay for both.”
Breakdown of Average Bridesmaid Costs:
- A 2018 survey by Oasis found that 59 per cent of bridesmaids believed brides should pay for their dress
- 35 per cent argued that brides should make a contribution towards their bridesmaid dresses
- The average cost of a bridesmaid dress is £114
- A 2016 survey by American Express found that bridesmaid spend an averge of £462 to be in their friend’s wedding party
- This includes spending £75 on travel, £93 on the hotel, £74 on gifts, £96 on the hen do, £68 on pre-wedding celebrations and £57 on drinks
Needless to say, the bride’s dilemma has sparked fierce debate in the forum – with many users insisting that £215 was too much to ask her bridesmaids to pay in the first place.
“Did you ask them how much they would be comfortable spending on dresses and shoes before you picked them?” one asked. “£215 is a lot of money, plus a bachelorette.”
Speaking from her own experience, another wrote: “It’s YOUR wedding and bachelorette, not theirs.
“My bridesmaids wore whatever they wanted (literally – they picked the colour, style, shoes and everything, some didn’t buy anything and they were all mismatched in similar colours). If I wanted them to wear something in particular, I would have bought it. No question.”
They clearly weren’t comfortable paying £215 on a dress and frankly even you chipping in £165 is still a lot for a dress you don’t particularly want and will never wear again.
Similarly, a third added: “I hate when brides use the excuse of them having other wedding costs as an excuse to make unreasonable demands of their bridesmaids.
“You choose to have a wedding, you decided on the budget and that should have nothing to do with the bridesmaids.
“They clearly weren’t comfortable paying £215 on a dress and frankly even you chipping in £165 is still a lot for a dress you don’t particularly want and will never wear again.”
Labelling the bride a “hyprocrite”, another wrote: “If £215 isn’t a lot of money to you then you should pay for it.
“You can’t in the same sentence say £215 isn’t a lot of money but then say you can’t afford to cover the cost either.”
For more wedding horror stories, this Bridezilla has been slammed for complaining that her fiance won’t get a second job to fund her £64,000 wedding – despite the fact she’s not working.
And a bride-to-be send her guests a TWO PAGE letter detailing the dos and don’ts of her wedding – including how no one can wear pink,.
Plus wedding guests were left ‘disturbed’ as the groom’s mother “spooned” him during the official family photos.
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